By: Abdel Rahman Mussa
9 days to go !
Does it feel like 21 days since we started posting on this blog ? What happened to the last 3 weeks ?
Why do we think that when Ramadan comes we will have all the time in the world?! It’s the same world my dear brothers and sisters. The speed with which the last 3 weeks just passed will be exactly the same speed with which the first three weeks of Ramadan will pass.
Exactly the same. Maybe quicker, even.
This article isn’t intended to be a guilt trip, nor should it be taken that way. It’s an objective assessment of where you are and where you are not.
This blog is intended to warm you up. To get you doing before hand, so lets review:
- Strengthening the family ties
- Self accountability
All of these topics have been touched upon and more, so now…
Have you fasted Monday or Thursday and how many times ? Have you contacted family ? How have your manners been ? Quran, did you increase the amount you read ?
and so on… really take account.
The prophet (pbuh) taught us that Abu Bakr’s faith outweighs the faith of the whole ummah. He (pbuh) describes him as not beating us by actions alone, but rather that something stabilized in his heart (faith).
Any yet, in the famous incident where the prophet asks, after fajr, if any of the sahabah had helped a needy person, visited someone that was ill, helped an orphan… he kept asking. No one but Abu Bakr (raa) raised his hand… and he did so for every question !
The sahabah bettered one another in their race to Allah through their hearts. They supersede us because of their hearts. And we rank, and out rank, one another as per the purity of our hearts.
And most importantly, what’s in our hearts manifests into action. This is the only way that Abu Bakr (raa) was able to so blatantly out do all the sahabah in the example above.
What does it take to have a healthy heart ?
In verse 44 of surat al Naml the Queen of Sheeba says the same thing that the Prophet Mussa (pbuh) says in verse 16 of Surat Al Qasas:
“My Lord, I have transgressed against myself”
Would you hurt someone that you truly loved ? Impossible – unless it was a mistake or you didn’t realize what you were doing ! Right ?
The Prophet Mussa kills a man – accidentally. The queen of Sheba didn’t know better, but the second she saw the miracle, she realised.
They felt sorry for themselves – the way a parent feels guilty when they find out that they were unwittingly harming their child whilst thinking they were strengthening him or her. The parent adores his/her child.
How is it that we end up not loving, but instead loathing or despising ourselves ?
Well, for most people as they grow up, they are reprimanded whenever they DO something bad or naughty and they are praised whenever they DO something that is good.
Whilst there might not be anything wrong with that as a child, as you grow, you need to shed that programming. Approval comes from within.
Most people walk around disapproving of themselves, seeking approval from others – either through positive or negative attention seeking. They look for dunya to make them feel happy, not realising that they hold the key and the lock themselves.
Instead, they act like they’ve handed over the keys to someone else without realising that THEY can’t give the keys to anyone – it’s just an act, but they forget that… and that’s worse than ACTUALLY giving the keys to someone else (if you could).
It means that ultimately, the person that you think has the key (but doesn’t) can never use the key to open the lock… it means you will definitely be disappointed.
If you are looking for happiness in your spouse, your children, your job, your wealth, your family… you will be disappointed and it’s not fair on them.
The source of happiness in this life and the next is Allah. When we give our hearts to Him (swt), in a comprehensive way– not simply in theory– but actually go through the process of releasing the grip of everything else on our hearts, freeing them from every whim and worry– only then do we feel a sense of calm, fulfilment and achieve happiness both in this life, and insha Allah the next as well. A heart that is free doesn’t simply endure trials and challenges, it excels in their presence. Allah (swt) mentioned those who excelled in the Quran as being true to their covenant
“Among the Believers are those who have been true to their covenant with Allah. Of them some have completed their vow , and some wait: but they have never changed (their determination) in the least.” (Al-Ahzab: 23)
Ramadan is the time to renew our oaths, the covenant that we would serve and worship Him to the best of our abilities. We owe it to ourselves to make a commitment to become our best. Every year we renew our commitment in Ramadan trying to reach an even higher level with Him, trying to soak enough in from the blessed month to fuel our engines for the year. Yet sometimes, just a few weeks out of Ramadan, and we find ourselves returning to our old ways.
This year, the process to truly grow and continue growing is being facilitated by a unique program we invite all the readers to.
i-Personal Enrichment is launching Whims-i-Kill Pro: a program that seeks to take us on a twelve month journey to free our hearts from every limiting whim that holds us back from allowing us to become our best. Please take a look at the site:
http://ipersonalenrichment.com/pro/ The video at this link also explains how it works. Pray istikharah and reflect on what investment you are willing to make to really free your heart this year from all that prevents you from true ihsan. Realize that in this program is an opportunity for a specialist to guide you step by step through your internal hurdles. These are the hurdles you have lived so long with and thought there was nothing more you could do about them but be patient. Subhan Allah, it doesn’t have to be that way.
With this program you will be given methods to rid your heart of them once and for all, and perform better comprehensively in your worship of Allah, in your family life, your career, your involvement in dawa, as everything becomes enhanced when the heart is freed of its whims. And though you will be doing more, your heart will actually be more at rest. Like the eye of a hurricane which is the most still and at peace while the stormy waters whirl around it, the heart can be full of tranquility and sakeenah if freed through practical tawakkul, while the challenges of the world may whirl around it.
Even if you don’t register for this program, at the very least make a resolution this Ramadan to renew your oath with Allah, and strive to be true to it, strive for excellence in comprehensive worship. Don’t let your past sins or slip ups, allow you to despair or want only mediocrity for yourself. And remember that real growth always requires an investment, and that you areworth that investment.
Allah (swt) promises in surah Yunis, verse 26:
“For those who have done their best (ahsanoo) is the best [reward] and extra. No darkness will cover their faces, nor humiliation. Those are companions of Paradise; they will abide therein eternally”
This dunya is an investment for the akhirah. We want what is best in dunya so that we can exchange it (in dunya) for what’s best in the akhirah.
This investment requires that you value yourself. Guilt will only take you so far and back to almost where you started !
Will-power alone will not work. It requires that you value yourself. In fact, it requires that you love yourself enough. That’s the only way.
So are you ready to invest ?